BY Anthony Gilét


People frequently associate a loosing control with negative impacts, and sure, when it’s a car, your mind or behaviour that you’ve lost control of, it almost certainly is. But, depending on what type of person you are, a loss of control can force you to stand up and grab the reins of your life back.

It’s that part of you that questions whether staying awake for three days and missing work is good for your career. It’s that part of you that questions whether comfort eating will make you feel better than getting down the gym. And it’s that part of you that questions taking the easy route over hard work and honesty. Are you a fighter, or a doormat? 

What I’m basically referring to here, is the fight or flight mode of one’s personality. Not the kind where you’re faced with a big exam and you have to chose between studying for the next 24 hours straight, or just winging it. But the kind that shapes your life. Nobody can fix something that only you know is broken. Which is why they say, “if you don’t like something, change it”. And that can apply to many aspects of living; relationships, work, lifestyle, and so on.

But what a lot of people don’t realise is that sometimes you have to lose control completely to decide that you need to make that change. To realise that things aren’t going the way you wanted. It’s certainly not a nice place to be in, but once you’ve spent a few days thinking about it, buried beneath your duvet, in a fog of marijuana smoke and a sea of empty bags and boxes that once belonged to fried food, you remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day, and it certainly wasn’t built by a lazy stoner.

That’s because you get out what you put in (wonder how many more cliché phrases I can throw in to this piece). So if you party too hard, you’ll become nothing more than a cracked out scene face. If you eat too much, you’ll become a lonely hoarder that gradually loses sight of their gentials day-by-day. And if you take a short-cut to success, you’ll lose it all just as easily.

A friend recently said to me, “GO GET YOUR LIFE”. Because life doesn’t just come to you.