Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t have your mind blown in the bedroom. In fact, we’re gonna teach you some tricks of the trade that will give you the best orgasms possible… without a man. So whether you’re just tired of the Grindr-schlep or want to make yourself feel a little special for enduring life’s hardships alone, we gotchu.
Plus, it’ll be good for your health, as Julia Margo, COO of innovative sex toy brand Hot Octopuss, tells us “Research even indicates that regularly ejaculating can decrease chances of prostate cancer”.
Raise tensions (and your legs)
This is a super simple tip that will elevate your solo orgasms. When masturbating on your back, (eg, lying on your bed) as you’re about to cum, lift your legs up and hold them there. Because our stomachs tend to tighten up during moments of pleasure, it can help to lean into this further. Feel the shudder!
Don’t forget the balls
We often joke about forgetting the balls during a blowjob, but they’re important during masturbation too. Play with them while you’re jacking off; “tug them, pull them” as Samantha Jones says.
And before you ejaculate, your balls move up to give power to your squirt, and apparently giving them a push at that time will boost your pleasure too. “If you press gently upward on the testicles just before ejaculation, it’s likely to be very arousing,” says Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., coauthor of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy.
Give yourself the time of day
Masturbation with men is so frequently quick and a rush to orgasm, but one way we can practice self-love is y giving ourselves the time that we would to a partner. So on your next free Saturday afternoon after doing the gym/cleaning, dedicate an hour to getting yourself off. If you’re someone that enjoys a variety of porn, flick through all your tastes – like porn tapas!
Introduce a 2nd act
It makes sense that you might not have the energy to interact with men (we don’t on most days), but that’s exactly what sex toys were invented for. Those from Hot Octopuss – including the world’s first guybrator (a vibrator for penises) are designed to give you the “most intense orgasm” that you can achieve. How?
“Our PulsePlate Technology™ is able to stimulate the tiny nerves on your frenulum using oscillations to provide super intense orgasms,” Margo tells us. “This leads to a unique experience (sometimes hands-free) for people who want to take their orgasms to the next level.”
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Most of us have been edged at some point in our lives, but have you ever teased yourself for weeks? “The best way to get in touch with the sensations and improve your orgasm is, somewhat ironically, to take orgasm off the table for a little while,” says sex and intimacy coach Leah Carey.
So if you’re a guy that usually jacks-off three or four times a day, try going a week or two.
Get your kegels in
OK, so this isn’t really a “quick fix” like some of the other suggestions on this list, but it is worth it. If you don’t know, (where have you been?!) kegels are the muscles that stop you peeing mid-flow and make your dick do that “bounce” thing.
Do five sets of 10 reps daily and you’ll have stronger erections, which equate to more intense orgasms. Also, your dick looks bigger when it’s standing at full attention.
While cumming hands-free is definitely something you wanna try, doubling down on the task also works; even if you don’t need two hands to do it. Place one hand around the base of the penis and the other above that (don’t worry if you fill up both of your hands!) and get stroking. The idea is that you’re stimulating the entire penis at once.