You can find almost any niche on OnlyFans these days, as Joel Benjamin, a master in tanric edging, is finding out. On his OnlyFans he uses his years of experience and skills to bring pleasure to men around the world.
We’re fascinated by your work! Tell our readers what it is that you do…
I teach Yoga and Tantric Bodywork for men. Over the years, my Tantric Bodywork practice has expanded from just one-on-one sessions to leading groups of 20 or more men at a time.
Isn’t that just a fancy way of saying “massages with a happy ending?”
For some, erotic bodywork is indeed just that, a “massage with a happy ending.” And there is nothing wrong with that. It’s an awesome way to relax and release tension. My work goes deeper. Each session includes a full-body Swedish/Sports massage with a focus on breathwork, meditation, and visualization. All of this precedes the introduction of Tantric Edging; the focus of which is to generate as much sexual/creative/life energy as possible. Ejaculation happens, but it is not the goal. The goal is the cultivation of energy- lots of it in order to energize and uplift in order to carry you through your life long after the massage is done. So I guess you could call my work a “massage with a happy never-ending.”
Clearly, you’ve studied the practice! What’s a simple tip that the everyday reader can take away and incorporate into their sex life?
One of the most important philosophies I teach is that sexual energy is the most powerful healing energy in the body. On a cosmic scale, sexual energy is creative/life energy, which is the most powerful energy in the universe. So it is very important to treat this vibe with the respect it deserves. Even though it feels good in the moment, don’t mindlessly waste it by shooting down the shower drain or into a cum rag. Engage with this energy mindfully. And be mindful of who you share it with. We’ve all had those encounters where we walk away from a hook-up feeling like we just got the life sucked out of us. That is because you did! If the vibe is not good with a potential partner, no matter how hot they are on the surface, politely excuse yourself. You will feel much more whole and grounded for making this choice.
How did you get into tantric edging?
When I was about 24 and in massage school I met a very handsome older man at a party. We started talking and he told me he did Tantric Bodywork and he invited me over for a session. I had never heard of Tantra or Tantric Bodywork so I said yes. This was one of the most consequential decisions I have ever made. He blew my mind with the places Bodywork could take you. He deeply challenged the dogma I was being taught in massage school about completely avoiding a man’s nipples and cock when working on him. He taught me that no part of the human body should be shamed; especially a man’s cock, the center of his masculinity. It was a profound experience for me and greatly effected my bodywork career moving forward.
Is the sex you have always of this style?
It is. Cock worship and nipple play have always been a primary focus in my personal sex life. I find it very powerful to sit across from another dude, both of us straddling a massage table facing each other stroking each other’s cock and working each other’s nipples. There is something very intimate and bonding about this. Some would call this foreplay. But there is a whole community of men out there who find this a super hot, and deeply satisfying way to connect with other men.
What tip can you give younger guys regarding embracing sexual liberation?
My advice would be the same advice that handsome older man who introduced me to Tantric Bodywork gave me. Your cock and the energy it generates are a force to be understood and treated with respect. Don’t just use it to get off. Work with it to cultivate vast amounts of creative energy in order to fuel and inspire your life.
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